This was a great post because I loved the way you explained the differences between reacting and responding. It really does work in helping me in the real world to stop reacting as much, by allowing the potentially emotionally charged reaction to pass, objectively. Mindfulness takes practice, effort and persistence. Thanks, Hiten. It is great to hear about your mindful practices have helped you. It is something I am just beginning but want to get deeper into. Like you, I believe it makes a difference, and you have related how it has.
Appreciate your added insights! Very nice piece on differentiating between reacting and responding, Jon! Nicely said, Alice! I think you are more of an expert on mindfulness than you think! It is about being attentive to our thoughts and releasing them, especially the ones that are really not that important.
Great thoughts added, Alice, so thank you! Really fantastic article, Jon! Leadership lives in our responsiveness and mindfulness helps tremendously. That is a great question to ask, Alli. Getting that quick pause may keep us on a responsive path rather than a reactive one.
I have found the Satir Interaction Model invaluable and helping me through these situations. It provides me a tool that encourages mindfulness in those situations.
It looks like a great model, J. I can see how this would help develop solid practices for interactions. Great model. I will definitely read more about it, and thank you for adding this into the conversation. Great article Jon. I have a flash temper and it used to get me in trouble all the time until I learned to create a buffer zone.
Thanks for the added inspiration and tips. Thank you, Marquita. Walking away is definitely a way to get re-grounded and centered. At times, we cannot so breathing may be the next best thing to re-gain our awareness and response. Always appreciate your insight and inspiration in your writing. I loved the post, Jon! Our reactions and responses are the choices we make. Instant reactions are sometimes bad and can hurt a lot, either yourself or others. Mindful responses is what we need to learn.
A good analysis. Great sages have reiterated one thing — at times like in the heat of a conversation or at all other times, do not get involved; take the role of an observer. Your ego is what gets hurt if it is active and involved in such situations. Conscious breathing too helps in being mindful, which again is akin to taking the observers position.
What wonderful advice, Harleena! The role of observer and keeping your ego in check are both essential. Really great additions to the conversation. Appreciate it! This is great. I am always a work in progress on this one.
Thank you! It is easier to react than respond, but the latter reflects better on us and makes more progress forward. Your email address will not be published. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. From Thin Difference to Jon Mertz, a new path is unfolding with a focus on the intersection of business and society.
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The upside is that the byproducts can be inspiring and push us to growth and improvement. React in action. Respond in action. The difference may be this: Responding is guided less by emotion and more by logic. The mindfulness difference. To respond in a more mindful way, these four steps may help: Step 1: Breathing Maintaining evenly-paced breathing is essential, an in and out reasonable rhythm.
Step 2: Awareness of body With each breath, we become more aware of our body. Step 3: Releasing tension With each breathe and raised awareness, we bring ourselves into control and release tensions. Step 4: Raising attentiveness As we maintain our inner calmness and strength, we listen to what is being said more intently, and we watch the way in which it is being said.
I am new to mindfulness. Pingback: AP 4 Reacting vs. Responding Spencer Burnside. Terre Tulsiak says:. January 29, at pm. Jon Mertz says:. January 31, at pm. Chris Altizer says:. March 16, at pm. MWE says:. October 5, at pm. KGBB says:. January 6, at pm. Rachel says:. December 16, at am. December 21, at pm. Terms of Use Privacy Policy. You yelled at me, so I will yell back. A reaction is a reverse movement or tendency, or an action in a reverse direction or manner.
Consider these scenarios: Imagine yourself going to a crowded place such as a concert, sporting event, bar, or night club. As you enter, you bump into someone and before you can say sorry, the person pushes you. Why do you think the person did this? The push they gave you in return is a reaction. It was like reflex, where they did not pause to reason. It was just spontaneous and thoughtless. Now imagine; what if the other person had stopped for a second before they pushed you?
If they did, they may have heard your apology and would have been more cordial. You may also like: How to let go of negativity and stress Keep calm and respond logically Now imagine; what if the other person had stopped for a second before they pushed you?
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There are plenty of ways you can adopt for the same, like the traditional way of meditating regularly or the modern technique of practicing breathwork. Although both contribute to attaining mindfulness and increasing the concentration level, they both have significant differences. Or do you feel as though your company's stress is killing you from inside?
High-pressure work may cause anxiety, but how can you know if your worry is caused by you or by the job? What's more, how are you going to get through it? What is Workplace Anxiety? Workplace anxiety is a type of anxiety caused at one's workplace. Anxiety at work may have an adverse influence on you and your future.
Those who are anxious at work ma. On a practical level, balancing your profession and your employee well-being is quite challenging. As you rise higher, you also face greater pressure to perform, which can result in self-doubt. It's easy to slip into the pitfalls of overthinking, anxiety, and perfectionism when you're shrewd and competent.
Many individuals try to separate job and mental health, yet the two are intertwined. People with a lot of achievements are sometimes hesitant to. When your child fails to cooperate, does your blood pressure skyrocket? This is what anger is. Anger is a perfectly natural emotion and, in most cases, healthy human emotion.
However, if it spirals out of control and becomes destructive, it may cause issues at work and in your personal relations and affect your emotional wellness. Anger triggers us to retaliate to the smallest of the situation that goes out of the usual way.
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